I can't wait to read a polished generic statement designed to deflect from the church and not directly acknowledge the serious issues raised by previous members other than perhaps mild insinuation some of them have troubled pasts.
I'm glad you are getting some help too. I do often wonder how you fit so much in your head and still find energy for joy in animals and friends and all the nice things.
This is EPIC progress, both providing a channel for so many people to share their stories and for making the church, at a minimum, pay attention.
Fingers crossed and well done!
also, my animal t-shirt has arrived and is in my drawer waiting for a super cool occasion for its first outing 😁
Good to hear that you're seeking support. Hope you've got plenty of good human interactions. With people who aren't draining you, but trying to build you up. Chase down some good stories... watch Brooklyn 99? That always cheers me up after a dive in the cesspool that can form at the bottom of human potential. Sunshine, human connection, and some good stories help me out a lot.
But then, I've never been under the same pressure as you. Shrinks are good too.
You're doing really important work and I imagine there is lots of additional pressure on you from so many victims. For being seen as someone who can be trusted with people's horrid stories. Thank you for your work. It is a part of making the world better, even if it's not a good experience.
Apr 10, 2022·edited Apr 10, 2022Liked by David Farrier
Urgh the utter arrogance to firstly ignore, then to palm off queries like yours to a PR firm is sickening. Of course they’ll answer the Uni questions coz we wouldn’t want to impact that revenue stream eh?
Now I’m wondering if Mother Teresa had a PR firm…? Would God? I don’t think so… These new church leaders/twats are all about revenue and growth and their own wealth.. *vomit*
Mōrena David I echo the folk below, pleased to hear you’re taking care of yourself. Silence is poison. Shining light on secrets is the only way to dispel the darkness. Oh fuck! I sound like one of them! Sorry I blame it on having Covid 🤒😷🤦🏻♀️😉😄
David, thank you so much for being the human being to take all of this and for being so honest about how it is affecting you. That takes some courage in itself.
Your words convey a weariness (and deep sadness) I have not detected in your writing before, and well, fuck mate, any amount of this head fuck will rightly fuck you up, so yeah, please remember you are not alone and we have your back. Well I do, I can’t speak for anyone else, but it seems it is so.
I can’t help but send you this vid of a Pallas Cat, which you may have seen before but it's worth watching again to help fill up your tank.
I can only imagine what a deluge of emails like that must feel like, David. I'm glad you're doing something to look after yourself.
The silence doesn't surprise me at all - I went to a pentecostal church for a while as a student, and it deployed several of the tactics you've described. Since leaving and shaking off the cognitive dissonance I've only been to churches for weddings and funerals.
Go get 'em David - you're doing important work. And remember, we've all got your back. Reach out to your community if it gets too much, because there's genuine caring here. (see below - and all the previous comments from the awesome people you have drawn in with your writing) x
I can't wait to read a polished generic statement designed to deflect from the church and not directly acknowledge the serious issues raised by previous members other than perhaps mild insinuation some of them have troubled pasts.
I'm glad you are getting some help too. I do often wonder how you fit so much in your head and still find energy for joy in animals and friends and all the nice things.
This is EPIC progress, both providing a channel for so many people to share their stories and for making the church, at a minimum, pay attention.
Fingers crossed and well done!
also, my animal t-shirt has arrived and is in my drawer waiting for a super cool occasion for its first outing 😁
go get em, David. standing with all the people whose emails, and thus lives, are represented in this and the previous webworms, your voices are heard!
My representative would like to apologise from the bottom of my heart, so long as it is about something else, and not to the victims.
Good to hear that you're seeking support. Hope you've got plenty of good human interactions. With people who aren't draining you, but trying to build you up. Chase down some good stories... watch Brooklyn 99? That always cheers me up after a dive in the cesspool that can form at the bottom of human potential. Sunshine, human connection, and some good stories help me out a lot.
But then, I've never been under the same pressure as you. Shrinks are good too.
You're doing really important work and I imagine there is lots of additional pressure on you from so many victims. For being seen as someone who can be trusted with people's horrid stories. Thank you for your work. It is a part of making the world better, even if it's not a good experience.
Urgh the utter arrogance to firstly ignore, then to palm off queries like yours to a PR firm is sickening. Of course they’ll answer the Uni questions coz we wouldn’t want to impact that revenue stream eh?
Now I’m wondering if Mother Teresa had a PR firm…? Would God? I don’t think so… These new church leaders/twats are all about revenue and growth and their own wealth.. *vomit*
Mōrena David I echo the folk below, pleased to hear you’re taking care of yourself. Silence is poison. Shining light on secrets is the only way to dispel the darkness. Oh fuck! I sound like one of them! Sorry I blame it on having Covid 🤒😷🤦🏻♀️😉😄
Yes! Was starting to get worried it was going to blow over.
I have a close friend who was big into this church when she was in Christchurch but I was overseas so didn't see or know much about it.
She had a breakdown, likely due to the pressures they put on her.
Even more worrying is her new church in the North Island sounds to be anti vax, anti govt. which has put a massive strain on our friendship.
Really tough when you can't have a decent discussion because they get so defensive and use the bible as their authority. Just willfil ignorance.
Thanks for giving voice to the victims.
David, thank you so much for being the human being to take all of this and for being so honest about how it is affecting you. That takes some courage in itself.
Your words convey a weariness (and deep sadness) I have not detected in your writing before, and well, fuck mate, any amount of this head fuck will rightly fuck you up, so yeah, please remember you are not alone and we have your back. Well I do, I can’t speak for anyone else, but it seems it is so.
I can’t help but send you this vid of a Pallas Cat, which you may have seen before but it's worth watching again to help fill up your tank.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sg8FMNEt8KY
You've got them on the back foot and the PR company will just dance on the spot. Take care of the victims and please sleep.
I can only imagine what a deluge of emails like that must feel like, David. I'm glad you're doing something to look after yourself.
The silence doesn't surprise me at all - I went to a pentecostal church for a while as a student, and it deployed several of the tactics you've described. Since leaving and shaking off the cognitive dissonance I've only been to churches for weddings and funerals.
Kia kaha David, you're doing real good in the world. Glad you are looking after yourself.
He's... standing in front of a cross made out of beer crates?
Go get 'em David - you're doing important work. And remember, we've all got your back. Reach out to your community if it gets too much, because there's genuine caring here. (see below - and all the previous comments from the awesome people you have drawn in with your writing) x
Arohanui David.
I gladly tithe to the church of webworm 🤭