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We call going to the restroom that we're "going to the litterbox". I didn't realize that meant we (a gay male couple) identify as felines. (We just like cats, and really all well-behaved animals.) What pronouns are we supposed to use? ;)

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YOU ARE THE PROBLEM

(kidding, kidding). Laughed a lot at this.

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It's always good to have some humour in your day, and we really do say that (though not all the time). Though if there was a literal litterbox in the restroom and a human was trying to use it, I would likely turn around and walk right back out (on two legs, not four).

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Meow would be the puurfect pronoun for this, surely ;)

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I'm saying this from now on 😆👍

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That's almost the perfect pronoun. I am going to propose we adopt it at work ;-)

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Aaagh I am nonbinary and I feel compelled to mention this but I have seen a lot of people IDing genuinely and in good faith as 'catgender' and other similar microlabels so when I saw this headline (hate-watching Bob McCoskrie) I assumed it had leaked to conservative media pundits somehow because whenever you see headlines like "x child is IDing as an animal!" it's always some slippery slope transphobia argument and I hate having to be the person going "actually I have seen and met some people IDing as catgender"

My point here is that when queer people *do* ID as 'catgender' or other microlabels ('bungender', 'spacegender', 'skygender') it's not *literally* "I identify as this other species", it's "I find this a helpful metaphor to describe my experience with gender" and we'd consider that broadly falling under the nonbinary umbrella. I had a friend who primarily ID'd as a trans man but also used the label bungender as a fun descriptor for just how he enjoyed cute things but also felt vulnerable a lot of the time.

I say all this but all the people I've seen using microlabels are generally teenagers or younger people who often harbour some pretty ugly sentiments against other queer people who's labels they 'disagree' with. For some reason a lot of them hate hate hate bisexual/pansexual women who also ID as lesbians and if you look up the mini-website explainers for various microlabels you'll often see "You cannot use this flag if you think bisexual lesbians are real" which feels indicative that a lot of the kids using these gender labels are sort of just doing high school teenage shit.

Of course this is all a mile away from demanding litter boxes in schools or demanding to be affirmed as a literal cat by their teachers, you'll notice. You're probably already aware of this but QAnon and adjacent movements are trying to do 'grassroots activism' by flooding school board meetings with bullshit conspiracy protests and wow, the bullshit they're shouting made it all the way down to NZ somehow. Not good. Thank you for reading my rant 😔

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Aug 25, 2022·edited Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Thanks so much for this, Lauren.

Labels are things we use to try to imperfectly communicate our lived experience to others. And as a therapist, I view a lot of that gate keeping that goes on within parts of the rainbow community as a trauma response where we reenact the persecutory trauma of being othered by the majority amongst ourselves. And that really hurts when the very people you finally thought would understand you, police your identity or reject you. There is no ‘right’ way to be gay, trans, bi, pan.

All the trans and rainbow clients I’ve had the privilege to know often don’t realise just how much personal growth they’ve done from a really young age. They have had to grapple with and make sense of complexities and subtleties others can glide over until later in life and have wisdom beyond their years. If you really want to understand gender, talk to someone who is trans.

Ka pai for your whaakaro and korero, Lauren. *hugs*

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I love this rant 🌷

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

This is a really depressing subject. I switched to the RNZ site a few years ago as my main source. It really raises my hackles when someone tries to tell me RNZ is not a credible news source, and if the government funds media then it must be a government mouthpiece. As though privately funded media is not a mouthpiece. I can't understand why no one is accountable for fake news, no legal structure can take them on. And people really believe this crap. It's so insidious. As for Arise: again, I just can't understand why the police aren't involved.

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I actually trust some of our government funded media most. I believe they are at least getting some funding and the government isn’t a puppeteer for them

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

As a trans person I notice these all the time on sites like the herald that recycle overseas stories. The other thing they do that makes me really angry is abuse the word "after". You'll see a headline "teacher arrested after using wrong pronouns for student" but the real story will be that they also assaulted someone in meantime. They use 'after' like a get out of jail free card on truth because if they said 'for' then there would have to be an actual causal link.

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Ugh. Yeah - and this stuff creates ripples out there, too. Sometimes people only read the headline so will never even know the rest.

Just constant terrible thoughts being reinforced, again and again - in an already bigoted brain.

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The attacks on trans identities that seems to be overflowing right now is just so awful - having your identity and well-being used as a political football in a culture war. I can only imagine how infuriating and painful that must be. Kia kaha, Nick.

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

I'm so glad you noticed the "furries in school" urban legend/hoax worming into mainstream australian news! You are the guy to talk sense about it!

So, I traced the origin of the hoax from inside furry subculture... All the way back to 2008 in mainstream US media. (It probably dated back to jokes on 1990's furry usenet, but that's too fuzzy to trace.)

It was latent for a long time, but I'd even made a "cat box cake" to make fun of it for a furry party in 2014 (on record at my news blog.)

It rose up again in 2021 with the huge anti-trans propaganda push. I commented about it before it hit the mainstream, even got thanked by a teacher who'd been targeted in rightwing blogs.

My tracing of the hoax was then quoted in mainstream debunking after senators repeated the hoax. The NY Times even reported to debunk it, which was a big deal... They only mentioned furries about 3 times ever I could find!

I then shared a map of where the hoax popped up, almost all in the US. I worked to reach out to various places and saw it being mostly tamped down.

Australia was the exception. It jumped across to there in a very fake opinion column by a shitty writer who sourced it to gossip at a dinner party. Funny enough her official account was suspended by Twitter... I wonder why. Other journalists made fun of it.

I hoped that would be the end of it... Months later the same news source ran what looked like a positive feature on furries.

Nope. A new round of it just hit a bunch of Australian outlets, laundering the same bullshit opinion article as if it was a real source.

I was too tired of the bullshit to even respond, it was already so dissipated after the first round, yet back like a zombie. It's good you did!

Search my Twitter plus "hoax" for links to all that. Here's a few.

https://twitter.com/DogpatchPress/status/1528752735155265538

https://twitter.com/DogpatchPress/status/1504792812184735745

https://twitter.com/DogpatchPress/status/1534585254383476737

https://twitter.com/DogpatchPress/status/1557778576962818049

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This is UNREAL.

I am so glad you posted this - I am going to add this as a PS in the online version of this newsletter.

Hugely informative. As usual - love your work, Patches.

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Awesome! I posted up the comment too and told everyone to subscribe here. https://twitter.com/DogpatchPress/status/1562921098731065344

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Incredible cyber sleuthing 🤙🏻

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Coming from Austria and a family dealing (or rather, not at all dealing but suffering/dying from) with multigenerational Nazi-induced and -inflicted trauma, it is utterly baffling and horrific how Goebbel's weaponising "Lügenpresse" (lying media) has reared its brutal, murderous head again, in 2022: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/worldviews/wp/2016/10/24/the-ugly-history-of-luegenpresse-a-nazi-slur-shouted-at-a-trump-rally/

With the amplifying power of social media algorithms, the "real" media has a bigger moral mandate than ever to focus on getting their facts right to combat those kind of slurs, instead of letting the alt-right push the Overton Window into full-blown diarrhoea. However, the fact that some of our biggest media conglomerates are owned and run by, let's face it, fascist kleptocrats - means we seem to have to no choice but repeat the worst trauma in history, but with the added apocalypse horses of climate and ecological collapse, nuclear winter, and AI.

This is all massively depressing and anxiety-inducing. Another reason why I'm enormously grateful to you, David, and Webworm for keeping up the good fight, investigating, and sharing facts and voices that otherwise would get drowned in SHIT. Your mahi seems to be cutting through some of that, I think it's amazing that Christianity Today has taken up the story. Now, I gotta go fight my cats for a space in the litter box >^..^<

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So sorry. Not that it helps but you don’t have to be a weatherman to see what’s on the horizon.

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I realise that article was from 2016, not 2022 but I think the fake/lying news slurs (which unfortunately, is being repeatedly proven by some of our largest media outlets, including the NZ Herald) have only gotten worse.

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And it goes on:

"Senator Ralph Babet slams Year 8 student who reportedly identifies as a cat

A United Australia Party senator launched a seething spray after reports a school supported a student’s decision to identify as a cat."

Etc

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Sadly all to true. You only have to follow international news feeds and even major stories typically make it to our feeds in NZ a few days later.

Nice to see that Christianity Today actually referenced David's articles and the work he had done, even going as far as including a hyperlink to see the original work. Such a simple thing to do, so why can't our NZ media do this too?

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Quite amazing that it was a fairly conservative Christian site to finally attribute the story properly, and trace the evolution of the whole thing. With Arise, context is everything, huh.

Part of what was so frustrating at the start of the Arise stuff is that other media treated Arise starting a review as if my magic.

The fact it started because of a newsletter (this one) and pressure (from readers spreading the word) was entirely absent and therefore the full story was not being told.

Also amazing that a conservative Christian site is rubbishing Arise. Shows how shitty it is when other Christian orgs are like "Gross, get the f--k away from me!"

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I hope NZME and other NZ media outlets have at least had the deceny to become paid subscribers to your content then. Or maybe like Google they will have to pay a fee to use other peoples material.

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I've found Christianity Today is one of the better Conservative Christian publications. I am, though, a glutton for punishment though for I keep going back to the Christian Post (a bit of repetition compulsion her methinks). Their latest is how in Florida a number of School Boards have been flipped by critics of critical race theory. So, no more denouncing of those upstanding slave owning Statesmen. It seems the poor little darlings can't take much criticism of our ancestors lest, they feel bad. I wonder when the next book burning of those awful wokish books will be.

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Murdochs' Malevolent Media MachinationsTM can &@$% off. Australia has had enough this week ... Crikey has called Lachy's bluff AND Murdoch Royal Commission is getting closer.

https://www.crikey.com.au/2022/08/25/murdoch-inquiry-zoe-daniel/

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Aug 25, 2022·edited Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

If anyone wants to read a whole book on how this fake news laundering works and about how bad it truly gets, written by a guy who used to write and spread such fake news himself and so can speak from experience, I highly recommend Trust Me I'm Lying by Ryan Holiday.

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I read that and it was pretty informative.

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I can confirm that the “kids identifying as cats” nonsense has reached the ears of my aunt and uncle, who swear that it’s true. As much as I love them, my aunt refers to transgender people with outdated slurs, taking away their humanity. As someone who’s coming to terms with her sexuality (after years of internal homophobia), it’s heartbreaking to hear and read these fake “stories.”

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I really hate how places like the Herald play straight into this narrative. It's so awful.

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That must be so hard - both frustrating and saddening, Jen. And you are so right - stories like this just increase the minority stress the rainbow community - and especially kids - have to endure. It’s actively harmful. Let’s be outraged about *that* rather than made-up crap. *hugs*

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Thank you, Paul. 💜

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

I gave up on the nz herald a few years back. Getting great local coverage through the spinoff and stuff atm, and supporting with funding as I can, but I do worry good journalism needs more than they can get through current models. Paywalls are an issue, which argues for credible publicly funded sources like the bbc and npr. That their reputation suffers in certain groups is a major concern, and I don’t think I can face all that this morning! Tired of the hostility…bring on the weekend😁

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I know not directly related, but genuinely interested to know how you are going with stuff’s new app? I find it one of the worst… really slow to load then freezes etc. It’s getting hard to keep them as a regular news source when so difficult to read the articles there.

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I haven’t loaded the app, use the website and found they reduced the previously shocking level of adverts, or at least beat them down to the bottom of the page. But it seems to be creeping up again.

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Thanks for this story. It’s Sisyphean, this calling out of the liars.

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

These invented news stories have been around for a long while but are now so common they’re harder to identify. Back in the 80s mainstream NZmedia solemnly reported that a “looney left” London borough council was refusing to use black bin bags since they were disrespectful to Black people. Weeks later the papers acknowledged that the story was found to have been invented by a right wing British journalist, The original story was prominently headlined. The correction was a small para on page 16.

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Aug 25, 2022Liked by David Farrier

Australia standing up to the Murdochs' has global repercussions...

https://www.crikey.com.au/2022/08/24/lachlan-murdoch-suing-crikey-political-reactions/

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It’s been .... interesting to watch how manufactured outrage has changed over the years. When I was in high school the local Fox News channels started pushing a story that kids were crushing up Smarties and snorting them, or pixie sticks, for fun. To the point that we all had to take home a note that stated that inhaling crushed smarties could lead to an infestation of maggots in your nasal cavities. Which is both horrifying and also basically completely untrue.

Meanwhile, we were smack dab in the middle of Ohio, where the opioid epidemic was (and still is) raging. No one ever snorted any candy, but I have lost ten classmates to Heroin overdoses in the last decade and a half. It does make the misdirection feel all the more tragic, in a way.

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Did you ever have the jenkem thing?

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/Drugs/story?id=3834092&page=1

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I don't remember that one, but I do remember in the early 2000s the manufactured hysteria over jelly bracelets and rainbow parties - neither of which existed before, but after giving youth the idea I'm sure they actually sprung into existence.

Jelly bracelets (and I kind of remember the 90's pull tab mentioned later):

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/sex-bracelets/

Rainbow parties:

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/rainbow-sex-party-real-fake (which debunks this but also claims the bracelets were real)

https://www.liquisearch.com/rainbow_party_sexuality/on_the_oprah_winfrey_show

https://www.nytimes.com/2005/06/30/fashion/thursdaystyles/are-these-parties-for-real.html

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Oh lord, I REMEMBER THAT SO CLEARLY. They even banned us from wearing the bracelets at school, and that was devastating to our entire middle school class because I was at a Catholic school at the time and there wasn’t much we could wear to jazz the uniform up. We also had 0 understanding of why they’d outlawed them suddenly. Someone was like “the colors indicate what you’ll DO.”

But we were in a Catholic middle school ... in Ohio, so there was no comprehensive sex ed to speak of, and the internet was monitored, so I’m not sure any of us ever even understood what that meant.

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Oh god, I have a very vague recollection of that, but I was also suuuper sheltered back in the day so if the mania wasn’t out of control things generally passed me by. That also sounds like a very Florida kind of news piece.

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