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Best rules. Thank you <3 Also as someone who WORKED at a women's refuge, having a trans woman to represent them would be amazing. Because then maybe more trans people would seek out help instead of avoiding it due to fear of discrimination. It's so gross someone tried to use that as a gotcha when it would be a huge step forward for representation. Trans women are women and thus belong in women's spaces. The end.

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I am a new(ish) Webworm subscriber...I joined early 2023 and this has been BY FAR the best thing I subscribe to. I appreciate all the work you do, and Webworm is such a wonderful relief from all the nonsense that overtakes the rest of the internet platforms. All the webworm readers in this community are so insightful and knowledgeable and kind, and I really enjoy reading what everyone has to say. Really brings a lot of joy to my day!

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Apr 12, 2023Liked by David Farrier

A friend and I got chased by a sea lion recently on Stewart Island. We hadn’t noticed it and walked close to the sea lion and between it and the water. They’re quite quick when moving on sand, faster than expected! And they have big teeth.

Anyway. Just saying, don’t always expect reasoned debates from sea lions. Sometimes they just want to bite you. 😊

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I love how generous you were with the person you ejected from the community. I think thus generosity and kindness that you imbue is why thus community is so welcoming and kind, on the whole 👍🥰

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Catching up on all of your podcasts with Dax and Monica ( I found web worm through dark tourist, and am finally getting to the American adventure portion of your works ) before I head into my Starbucks shift! Honestly always good to lay down the law in writing, it’s easier than playing whack-a-mole!

Hi worms!! Love y’all!!

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This community brings me so much joy 💓 With you all and David's reporting, I find it incredibly easy to do as Bill & Ted so wisely encourage all of us to do, "Be excellent to each other." Thanks to all for being you 💙💃🏽

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Apr 12, 2023Liked by David Farrier

Thanks for this! I’m currently taking a social media break post Posie Parker bullshit, since being a minority is SO EXHAUSTING sometimes, so having an online place where I don’t have to prepare or wonder is deeply appreciated - much like Bob Ross. Very lovely dog also!

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Apr 12, 2023Liked by David Farrier

No sealioning here. In these parts we worm. Worm away my friends.

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Wonderful as always, David ❤️❤️. I think Webworm might be my favorite space on the internet these days. So much of social media commenting is full of people sharing their absolute *worst* hot takes and generally just being a drag. Webworm is like a little breathe of fresh air/escape from it all. Thanks to you and everyone else for always being here 😍😍😍!

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I always appreciate so much that Webworm tends to naturally be an open-minded and kindhearted space. It's always a breath of fresh air, which I think we all need. I'm also very thankful that you are always receptive to making changes in your language, tweaking something, etc. to make sure that everyone feels safe and included here! It seems like such a little thing but it means a whole lot!

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Apr 12, 2023Liked by David Farrier

Thank you for these lovely clear and just generally really nice rules. As a non-binary trans human, I feel safe and at home here, despite not commenting terribly often any more.

You're a good human David, and you've created a wonderful community. Thank you.

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Apr 12, 2023Liked by David Farrier

Honestly, having a place like this is such a relief. While some may say that "shutting down conversations" blah blah blah is bad/ shows narrow-mindedness (I lost a long-time friend to this notion last year), I agree entirely that we don't need every damn place we commune with others to be a forum for argument and tension. It IS exhausting, and I'm not even someone who's charged daily with defending her lifestyle. So I think it's wonderful to be able to brave "Reading the "Comments" here at Webworm, knowing that it'll be an enriching and heart-warming experience, not a total bum-out.

Thank you all you good-hearted, smart-thinking, gracious people who come to David's place on the Web 💖

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This was excellent. Introduced me to the idea of "sealioning" and made me see what it is and what I dislike about it! It's one of those things I knew I didn't like without ever seeing what it was.

So, thanks! Happy Wednesday to you.

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Apr 12, 2023Liked by David Farrier

Usually I have to wear mental armour to look at a comment section. I’ve generally stopped, it is too exhausting! Particularly in engagement driven sites. But I like it here, its seeing people relate, share, support. Plus cute animal pics. Thanks!

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I appreciate these! The internet in 2023 is exhausting - some days it feels like all the kind people I'd like to thoughtfully interact with are being driven away by marauding crowds looking for the next battle in their own personal culture war.

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Thanks for the outspoken stance, David. I find even in spaces that seem safe unless things like this are explicitly stated (and even when they are, but less so), people tend to start pushing boundaries to see how much they can get away with. As if 'don't be a dick' is something they need to be told, instead of something we all just strive for in our every day lives naturally.

Anyway, message boards! I spent so much time on message boards in the 90s. The Megadeth message board in particular. It was a great community and I made some really good friends, even dated one of them for a bit, but unfortunately I've lost touch with them all. I wish I could find some of them again and see how they're doing.

As much hate and vitriol as there is online in general, there are always little pockets of goodness, full of wonderful people. Thanks for making this one of them 💜

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