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Adam Reaves's avatar

After the murder of George Floyd, I got rid of my Facebook account. Seeing the hatred of people being nasty and mean got to me as I was struggling with my sobriety and I wanted out. And after I did, I noticed a change in my behavior. Now, I did start a Twitter, but that was to follow a TV show called The Boys, but after Elon took over, I left. But that's a conversation for another day.

Soon after, I started unplugging from pointless subscriptions I didn't use. An app to help do math better and use my brain more that never seemed to help. Another to help me meditate. One for sober people that you pay to connect with when AA is free. I even cancelled my Netflix account much to the dismay of my ex girlfriend who used it after we had broken up.

What I realized is how good these companies are into tricking you into getting your money. I had to take a marketing class for my job due to retailing some of our food items,- David, you need to try pimento cheese if you haven't, ask Monica about it. - and they went over how these companies pull you in. The ease of use, the color pallets used, the noises and most importantly, the instant gratification of having a trial run but where you're not reminded that you have to cancel or you're going to be charged. Hook. Line. Sinker.

Now, after unplugging and unsubscribing and getting back into reality, I've noticed just how amazing life is. And how important it is to live it. I turn 40 this year, and it's shocking to me the brevity of life; that my memories are now years past though it felt just like yesterday. And it is better to talk to someone, to shop local and support a cause, to support a minority owned business, to give my dollar to a homeless or unhoused person, rather than give it to some company who gives zero fucks about anyone or anything other than themselves or their checking account. I again still have some things I need to work on, I still use some services like Prime and Spotify, but I do try my best. I'm just wanting to experience life to it's fullest. Our lives really are but a vapor, and we are doing ourselves a disservice by not helping others and being a part of society in some facet.

Also, I had my girlfriend put on Dark Tourist last week- she has Netflix haha- and she enjoyed your interaction with Popeye and the Santa Muerta folks. She wanted a piece of the cake mostly.

And as always, thank you for posting. That was a good read for the weekend for sure. Such good stuff and amazing to know we have great people out there in the world sticking it to man.

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Meliors Simms's avatar

The mutual aid organizations and activities I'm involved are the best things in my day to day life, all with no cash or corporations involved.

Through Timebank I can trade services without paying : I mend clothes and handknit socks to earn time credits credits , then when I recently had to move house twice in 2 months, 19 local acquaintances helped me in exchange for my credits.

I help organise a Crop Swap twice a month, where we bring surplus from kitchen or garden to exchange. I don't have much of a garden due to renting insecurity, but I can bring some baking and foraged herbs and walk away with a big bag of fresh vegetables.

I recently joined one of the local savings pools, a small group who loan eachother money interest free.

Once a month I meet at someones house with a few others who share an interest in alternative healing. We spent the past few years holding space for each others grieving, somehow staying connected through great tests of our philosophical differences (alt healers are not *all* antivax). This year we've evolved into a writers support group, encouraging eachother to produce a memoir, a haiku collection and my own nonfiction book, The Secret Lives of Teeth.

I've struck a deal with a neighboring single dad with 3 kids and a big garden but no spare time. I help plant vegetables and prune fruit trees in exchange for a share of our harvest. It's closer than the community garden a few blocks away, but I can help there too if I want.

Every week I meet up at someone's house with 2-5 people to play board games. None of my old friends like games, but I've found new friendships with this odd bunch of Wingspan and Parks enthusiasts.

I also give and take from Aroha Stands, free pantries (streetside cupboards) where folks can leave surplus food or books etc and anyone can take what they want for free. I found a nearly new pair of winter shoes there a few weeks ago that fit perfectly, my first new shoes in 2 years.

I occasionally go along to one of the knitting meetups at a cafe and get the local gossip while I make socks for timebank trades. Knitters love to share advice, tools, surplus materials, and throwing their efforts into knitting for premmie babies, rest home residents or cyclone

Our little village of 3500 offers all this and more that I'm not involved in personally like the volunteer fire brigade, church and marae based activities heaps of environmental programs (from seed sorting to pest trapping) and stuff for kids to do.

Oh and our local mutual aid is expanding. We're starting a new Repair Cafe next week. I'm psyched to offer my textile mending services and hopefully get my broken fan fixed.

I enjoy all this while working full time in my own business, writing and self publishing my book and being sole support for my elderly mother. I have no time for Facebook or Netflix and i like it that way!

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