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Nadene's avatar

I finally got the courage to watch this. When you've been under the spell of a sociopath, it's not a place you want to go again, even to visit. I waited until it was streaming so I could hit pause if I needed to. I hit pause a few times.

I had two thoughts at the end of it.

1. The projection. Once you know it and see it, it's obvious, and it's almost funny in a horrible sort of way.

But when you're in a relationship with someone like this - mine had different colours, but it's definitely the same paint deck - you're so... stuck. You think the lies are real. And you think you're ok, and others are SO wrong. Except deep inside you, there's always this... confusion. A gnawing in your gut.

2. The people he abused

If you don't know who you truly are, in the depths of your heart, and know how to fiercely love yourself, people like him can see it. They can smell your trauma. I can only assume they see a glowing aura because they definitely know who to target.

Being with a sociopath is a very bad place to be. I'm enormously grateful to those who pulled me out of that darkness. Not everyone makes it out. People like Jillian - alive, but deep in the darkness. People like Brent who aren't with us anymore.

Thank you as always David (and your team) for doing this work. I hope those who see Mr Organ understand there are so many people like this - they present differently but there are things they have in common. Look for the projection. Check if you feel confused, even by small things (really small!). These are actually big red flags, but they can be really easy to miss.

There are two old sayings that I had to learn the hard way thanks to my sociopath.

Actions speak louder than words - as David showed, almost everything will be a lie.

To thine own self be true.

Oddly, I wouldn't have learned these truths or have the peace I feel today without the lessons I learned from my sociopath. But I was very lucky.

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Chris O's avatar

Love that line about the everyday sociopath. Have been raving about it to friends... but am short on explanation when they ask ‘what’s it about?’ I’ve been going with an air of mystery and saying’ I can’t even begin to describe it...just go and then we’ll talk’ Now I can weave in the everyday sociopath! And great news for me, I’d love to see it again. Expect it has more to give now Ive clocked his character.

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