I finally got the courage to watch this. When you've been under the spell of a sociopath, it's not a place you want to go again, even to visit. I waited until it was streaming so I could hit pause if I needed to. I hit pause a few times.
I had two thoughts at the end of it.
1. The projection. Once you know it and see it, it's obvious, and it's almost funny in a horrible sort of way.
But when you're in a relationship with someone like this - mine had different colours, but it's definitely the same paint deck - you're so... stuck. You think the lies are real. And you think you're ok, and others are SO wrong. Except deep inside you, there's always this... confusion. A gnawing in your gut.
2. The people he abused
If you don't know who you truly are, in the depths of your heart, and know how to fiercely love yourself, people like him can see it. They can smell your trauma. I can only assume they see a glowing aura because they definitely know who to target.
Being with a sociopath is a very bad place to be. I'm enormously grateful to those who pulled me out of that darkness. Not everyone makes it out. People like Jillian - alive, but deep in the darkness. People like Brent who aren't with us anymore.
Thank you as always David (and your team) for doing this work. I hope those who see Mr Organ understand there are so many people like this - they present differently but there are things they have in common. Look for the projection. Check if you feel confused, even by small things (really small!). These are actually big red flags, but they can be really easy to miss.
There are two old sayings that I had to learn the hard way thanks to my sociopath.
Actions speak louder than words - as David showed, almost everything will be a lie.
To thine own self be true.
Oddly, I wouldn't have learned these truths or have the peace I feel today without the lessons I learned from my sociopath. But I was very lucky.
Love that line about the everyday sociopath. Have been raving about it to friends... but am short on explanation when they ask ‘what’s it about?’ I’ve been going with an air of mystery and saying’ I can’t even begin to describe it...just go and then we’ll talk’ Now I can weave in the everyday sociopath! And great news for me, I’d love to see it again. Expect it has more to give now Ive clocked his character.
I could never explain it before but NZ does have an underlying haunted vibe! I think possibly it's it's isolation in the world? Even though I'm not generally a spiritual or indigenous person there is a definite connection to the land, and if you're born here I can't imagine not eventually returning to it...like if I get buried somewhere else my spirit will be stuck or I'll be forced back!
My abiding feeling after watching Mr Organ was worry for that poor woman who is entangled with him. Even months later I occasionally think about her and wonder what's happening. I hope she gets away from him at some point.
Lovely to see the Alice Cinema photo (which was where I saw it & was thrilled when you turned up to give a ... Preamble? intro? pep talk?)
Anyway, I think the reviewer hit the nail on the head about "lingering colonialism" perhaps being a factor in the vibe ... do even our Pakeha writers, film makers, doco makers etc. have the sense of unresolved (largely?) dark deeds that they pick up from news items, documentaries, and/or working with our extraordinary Maori talent?
And as a smaller population, we are more aware of public discussions around Treaty grievances & settlement negotiations than a larger population base would be.
Remember how we found the people who bombed the Rainbow Warrior? Some random people in some obscure place noticed something strange & wondered? ... sadly not all of us, esp these days, but I think we have been more aware of what is happening about the place - where the latest serious road crash happened, the distressing number of drownings etc.
One of my favourite TV series was the 1st season of Top of the Lake, which I re-watch on DVD every now and then, mainly for the stunning scenery around Glenorchy & surrounds initially, but it too has this darkness despite the gorgeous setting. Then came "One Lane Bridge" in same location but also creepy vibe, and now sadly this beautiful area is haunted for real by 2 recent drownings, which again, many NZers will know of, even in the background.
And is it chicken and egg? Now we have had UTU, The Piano, Once Were Warriors etc. etc. etc. (even Boy & Hunt for the Wilderpeople have an undertone) - does that CREATE the darkness or REFLECT it?
I finally got the courage to watch this. When you've been under the spell of a sociopath, it's not a place you want to go again, even to visit. I waited until it was streaming so I could hit pause if I needed to. I hit pause a few times.
I had two thoughts at the end of it.
1. The projection. Once you know it and see it, it's obvious, and it's almost funny in a horrible sort of way.
But when you're in a relationship with someone like this - mine had different colours, but it's definitely the same paint deck - you're so... stuck. You think the lies are real. And you think you're ok, and others are SO wrong. Except deep inside you, there's always this... confusion. A gnawing in your gut.
2. The people he abused
If you don't know who you truly are, in the depths of your heart, and know how to fiercely love yourself, people like him can see it. They can smell your trauma. I can only assume they see a glowing aura because they definitely know who to target.
Being with a sociopath is a very bad place to be. I'm enormously grateful to those who pulled me out of that darkness. Not everyone makes it out. People like Jillian - alive, but deep in the darkness. People like Brent who aren't with us anymore.
Thank you as always David (and your team) for doing this work. I hope those who see Mr Organ understand there are so many people like this - they present differently but there are things they have in common. Look for the projection. Check if you feel confused, even by small things (really small!). These are actually big red flags, but they can be really easy to miss.
There are two old sayings that I had to learn the hard way thanks to my sociopath.
Actions speak louder than words - as David showed, almost everything will be a lie.
To thine own self be true.
Oddly, I wouldn't have learned these truths or have the peace I feel today without the lessons I learned from my sociopath. But I was very lucky.
Love that line about the everyday sociopath. Have been raving about it to friends... but am short on explanation when they ask ‘what’s it about?’ I’ve been going with an air of mystery and saying’ I can’t even begin to describe it...just go and then we’ll talk’ Now I can weave in the everyday sociopath! And great news for me, I’d love to see it again. Expect it has more to give now Ive clocked his character.
Saw it last year but have raved about it so much my friend had preordered the DVD for a rewatch party!!!
100% not annoying 🥰🥰.
Wonderful news that you're getting it out there!! Still gonna be patiently waiting here in the states while you get it all sorted ❤️❤️!
It was the top rating doco because it was fucking amazing. I will always be grateful for the chance to see that cat jacket in real life too.
Yay to all of these options!
Congratulations again, you are such a talent David.
I could never explain it before but NZ does have an underlying haunted vibe! I think possibly it's it's isolation in the world? Even though I'm not generally a spiritual or indigenous person there is a definite connection to the land, and if you're born here I can't imagine not eventually returning to it...like if I get buried somewhere else my spirit will be stuck or I'll be forced back!
My abiding feeling after watching Mr Organ was worry for that poor woman who is entangled with him. Even months later I occasionally think about her and wonder what's happening. I hope she gets away from him at some point.
Awesome, we’ll done David!! 👏🏻
Thanks David, you are a legend. Couldn’t go to cinema showings but looking forward to seeing it on Docplay.
Oh this is great news!
Today is the day if you're in NZ or Australia: https://www.docplay.com/discount/WEBWORM45
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Feel free to share this link and code with fellow Webworm enthusiasts who might have missed it!
Awesome - now we can watch it again!! Thanks for the link to your DocPlay recommendations too. LOVE John Safran vs God!
Lovely to see the Alice Cinema photo (which was where I saw it & was thrilled when you turned up to give a ... Preamble? intro? pep talk?)
Anyway, I think the reviewer hit the nail on the head about "lingering colonialism" perhaps being a factor in the vibe ... do even our Pakeha writers, film makers, doco makers etc. have the sense of unresolved (largely?) dark deeds that they pick up from news items, documentaries, and/or working with our extraordinary Maori talent?
And as a smaller population, we are more aware of public discussions around Treaty grievances & settlement negotiations than a larger population base would be.
Remember how we found the people who bombed the Rainbow Warrior? Some random people in some obscure place noticed something strange & wondered? ... sadly not all of us, esp these days, but I think we have been more aware of what is happening about the place - where the latest serious road crash happened, the distressing number of drownings etc.
One of my favourite TV series was the 1st season of Top of the Lake, which I re-watch on DVD every now and then, mainly for the stunning scenery around Glenorchy & surrounds initially, but it too has this darkness despite the gorgeous setting. Then came "One Lane Bridge" in same location but also creepy vibe, and now sadly this beautiful area is haunted for real by 2 recent drownings, which again, many NZers will know of, even in the background.
And is it chicken and egg? Now we have had UTU, The Piano, Once Were Warriors etc. etc. etc. (even Boy & Hunt for the Wilderpeople have an undertone) - does that CREATE the darkness or REFLECT it?
That's a pretty good release you got going, nice!
Very annoyed from Canada!! Patience is a virtue right?
Time to bother with a VPN! 😂
And that quote has me *dying* to go to Aotearoa omg